If you haven’t watched this movie (Fireproof), please go and download it ASAP. Whether you are married or single, you need to watch the movie, because it is loaded with lessons. I can’t count the number of times I have watched it, and every time I do I learn new things. So let me just share few things that I have learnt from this movie. Sit back, grab a popcorn & and ice-cream. You never leave your partner especially in a fire.
Marriage aren’t fireproof (that is marriage is not always a smooth journey), sometimes you get burned. Fireproof doesn’t means there won’t be fire but that when fire comes you will be able to withstand it. Communication is key, your spouse especially women loves to be with someone they can talk to someone who listens and understand them. Listening to your wife makes her feel special, appreciated and important.
The reason why some husbands complains and says their wives nags always is because they fail to listen to her. No marriage is broken, the two partners just don’t know how to make it work. Marriage needs two partner who are willing to make it work no matter what, two people who will stick together even in the fire A woman is like a rose, if you treat her right she will bloom if you don’t she will wilt.
The way you treat your wife is the way you will enjoy her, if you treat her like a queen then she will be a queen to you and if you treat her like a slave then so be it. One important thing a man needs in marriage is respect respect respect, he can’t have too much of it, but respect isn’t just given, it is earned. A man who doesn’t do honorable things with his time and who doesn’t love his wife will likely not get the respect he yearns.
A real man should be a hero to his wife before anybody else. You can be an hero at work, in your extended family or in the community but the most important thing is to be a hero to your wife and children. When a marriage isn’t working out, it is not something that started suddenly, it is a gradual process you guys are just too busy to notice. Love grows and it can also die, love doesn’t die suddenly it is your insensitivity, ego, nagging, selfishness that kills love.
When two people get married it is for better or on worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness or in health, but not anymore couples only wants to stay together when it is better, in riches and in good health. Divorce breaks either one or both of the partner. Our words reflect the condition of our heart, so don’t say negative words to your spouse at all. It is better to hold your tongue than to say something you will regret.
Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry, James1:19. Love in the truest sense is not based on feelings but a determination to show thoughtful actions even when there seems to be no reward. Whatever you put your time and energy into will become more important to you, it’s hard to care for something you are not investing in. if you hardly spend money on your wife and you hardly have time to talk, and she will become less and less important to you.
When a man is trying to win the heart of a woman, he studies her; he learns her likes, dislikes, habits and hobbies. But after he wins her heart and marries her he often stop learning about her. If the amount he studied her before marriage is equal to a high school degree, he should continue to learn about her until he gains a college degree, a master’s degree, a PhD degree and ultimately becomes a professor. It is a lifelong journey that draws his heart closer to hers, so don’t ever stop studying each other.
Help your wife in every way possible, clean the house and wash the dishes, it doesn’t make you less of a man, in fact it earns more respects for you. Your wife doesn’t need to ask for your help at home before you help her. And don’t ever think you are doing her a favor by helping her, rather you are doing yourself a favor. It is the duty of every man to help his wife and the duty of every woman to help the man.
You can’t love your spouse if you don’t have Christ, because you can’t give what you don’t have, you can’t love someone until you understand what love really is. You don’t love someone because you get a reward out of it, love is a decision to love your spouse whether they deserve it or not. There is this popular saying that you should follow your heart especially when you want to make a decision. But am telling you, don’t just follow your heart because your heart can be deceived, but you have to lead your heart. Watch out for parasites in your marriage.
A parasite is anything that latches onto you or your partner and sucks the life out of your marriage; they are usually in the form of addictions like gambling, drugs or pornography. They promise pleasure but they grow like a disease and consume more and more of your thoughts, time and money they steal your loyalty and heart from those you love.
Marriages rarely survives if parasites are present. If you love your spouse you must destroy any addiction that has your heart, if you don’t it will destroy you. When a man is giving you the attention that you don’t get from your husband even though he knew you are married, what makes you think he won’t do that with someone else?
Apologizing doesn’t mean you are wrong and the other person is right, it only means you value your relationship more than your ego, no one is too big to kneel and beg for forgiveness when the need arise. That you are the head doesn’t mean you are too big to say sorry and apologize. Love is when you put your spouse interest first before yours.
No one can say he loves if he is not willing to give and sacrifice for his spouse. Catherine in this movie did not believe that her husband has change and now truly loves her until Caleb gave the 24000 dollars he has been saving for a boat to purchase wheelchair and hospital bed for the his wife’s mother, that is what we call love and sacrifice.
And until your love is an unconditional love that doesn’t depend on whether the person deserves it or not, then your marriage might not work. If you have watched this movie before please add the lessons you learnt that wasn’t mentioned here and lets learn together.
Thanks for reading and thanks to the Kendrick Brothers for this wonderful movie
SALIENT LESSON FROM THE MOVIE: FIREPROOF